So What Are The Roles?

You know back in the day, it was "established" and I use that word lightly, what the roles of a wife were and the roles of a husband were. And then there is the bible who also refers to what a wife does and what a husband does and their roles are. So my question is, what is the actual role of a wife? What is the actual role of a husband? I am sure that most if not all humans on planet earth would agree that the roles of a wife are as follows: Be ready for sex when husband wants it; make sure husband has at least 3 cooked meals a day (and cooked meals for your kids if you have any); wash, dry, fold and put away your husbands clothes (and your kids clothes if you have any); allow your husband his time to wind down before you come to him with any concerns like bills, etc.; keep the house clean and tidy just in case there are visitors; wash the dishes when they are in the sink; go grocery shopping and put the food away; keep the calendar updated with all appointments and events; balance the check book and keep track of all money (incoming and outgoing); and keep yourself in all ways possible so that your husband continues to "notice" you. Now the roles of the husband are as follows: work and bring home the money and provide for your household (emotionally, spiritually, mentally). Seems a bit unbalanced if you will. So I wonder why our husbands are clueless as to why we as wives become OVERWHELMED! Gee! Hard pill to swallow. Then there is the bible, in the book of Ephesians chapter 5 where is says that the wife is to be subject to her husband as unto the Lord and that the husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it. So in saying that, how is it that marriage can still seem so unbalanced? You would think that since Christ sacrificed his life for the church, the husband would also make a sacrifice (not so much in his life ending, lol) but a sacrifice none-the-less. And then you would think that a wife would be subject to her husband as unto the Lord so as she submits her ways unto God, she can also learn to submit her ways to her husband, right? Not so! We are still dealing with such a high divorce rate right here in the church. Yes, there are many reasons as to why that is. And some are legit and some are not. When are we gonna get this straight so we can have more fulfulling marriages? Maybe soon? Maybe later? Maybe  never?