So What Are The Roles?

You know back in the day, it was "established" and I use that word lightly, what the roles of a wife were and the roles of a husband were. And then there is the bible who also refers to what a wife does and what a husband does and their roles are. So my question is, what is the actual role of a wife? What is the actual role of a husband? I am sure that most if not all humans on planet earth would agree that the roles of a wife are as follows: Be ready for sex when husband wants it; make sure husband has at least 3 cooked meals a day (and cooked meals for your kids if you have any); wash, dry, fold and put away your husbands clothes (and your kids clothes if you have any); allow your husband his time to wind down before you come to him with any concerns like bills, etc.; keep the house clean and tidy just in case there are visitors; wash the dishes when they are in the sink; go grocery shopping and put the food away; keep the calendar updated with all appointments and events; balance the check book and keep track of all money (incoming and outgoing); and keep yourself in all ways possible so that your husband continues to "notice" you. Now the roles of the husband are as follows: work and bring home the money and provide for your household (emotionally, spiritually, mentally). Seems a bit unbalanced if you will. So I wonder why our husbands are clueless as to why we as wives become OVERWHELMED! Gee! Hard pill to swallow. Then there is the bible, in the book of Ephesians chapter 5 where is says that the wife is to be subject to her husband as unto the Lord and that the husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it. So in saying that, how is it that marriage can still seem so unbalanced? You would think that since Christ sacrificed his life for the church, the husband would also make a sacrifice (not so much in his life ending, lol) but a sacrifice none-the-less. And then you would think that a wife would be subject to her husband as unto the Lord so as she submits her ways unto God, she can also learn to submit her ways to her husband, right? Not so! We are still dealing with such a high divorce rate right here in the church. Yes, there are many reasons as to why that is. And some are legit and some are not. When are we gonna get this straight so we can have more fulfulling marriages? Maybe soon? Maybe later? Maybe  never?

Is the grass greener????????

On the other side that is. Life truly does have its ups and its downs. But sometimes the ups feel real high and the lows feel below ground. I have made many decisions that I regret and yet many decisions that I regret I didn't make as well. It's hard. Marriage. Motherhood. Sisterhood. Life. So many times I feel like a single parent. So many times I feel like NO ONE understands. So many times I feel like giving up, yes even on life itself. Ever wonder if the grass is greener? On the other side? On your side? Is the grass really green to begin with? Yes I know I am not going to get the perfect life. A perfect life is not what I am looking for. Although some would beg to differ. I work hard. Real hard. And sometimes the ones that you wish would see, don't. And the ones  you are not thinking about, do see. Is that the way life is suppose to be? It seems so....unbalanced. I do understand that happiness is temporary and that JOY is everlasting, in Jesus that is. But sometimes I feel like I'm a million miles away from my Father. The only one who can truly soothe away my hurt, my frustration and my pain. I know that God is my only source of strength. My only source of JOY. My only source of provision. So if I know this, why do I still turn and depend on people? I guess it's just my human nature. So in conclusion, I guess the grass is only green when I keep up with caring for it. It withers when I leave it alone. And I guess, there is really no grass on the other side either. Who knows........

Another answered prayer

So we take our kids to the beach for a fun day in the sun. And what a day it was. The sun drained just about the rest of my energy for the year, lol. But seriously, they had a good time. So much so, that as soon as we got into the car, 2 of the 3 passed out. Ah! Just one more to go. We make it close to home when we decide to get some fast food. I begin to look for my wallet, it's not here! I looked in the trunk to see if I put it in there, it's not there! Where could my bag be? Oh No! We left it back at the beach. Okay so I could've lost my mind and I could've allowed myself to begin thinking of all the worse case situations and yet I had peace about it all. I was at peace if someone found it and would use my information for themselves. I was at peace if someone found it and was honest and true. I was at peace if neither one happened. Why? I realized that God has continued to show me His grace and mercy and FAVOR in my life and that I truly had nothing to worry about. Whatever happened, He was in control of it all. So I prayed.  I asked God to make my bag invisible to others. I asked God to have someone who was honest find it and hold it. And then I thanked God that if he didn't fulfill either one of my requests, that I thanked him that all those material things were replaceable. So we headed back to the beach. Guess what! My bag stood in the middle of people and no one seemed to notice it! HA! Well Praise God! He made my bag invisible. Nothing was stolen. Nothing was damaged. Everything was as it was left, untouched. I know that God is faithful in big and small things. How could I not love a God like this?